Social Media Help and Support
Information below is taken directly from the Netsafe Website.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU’RE BEING BULLIED
If you’re being bullied online, you can contact Netsafe for help and advice.
Tips if you’re being bullied online
- Don’t reply: Especially to messages from phone numbers or people you don’t know.
- Don’t attack the person back: Avoid giving the bully the satisfaction of a reaction by retaliating.
- Have a conversation: If it’s safe, try talking to the person privately about what they’ve said or done. Stay calm and let them how their actions have affected you.
- Talk to someone: Talking to friends, wh?nau or someone else you trust can help make you feel better and help you cope with the situation.
- Save messages and images: Take screen shots of the bullying in case you need evidence later. Find out how here.
- Cut off the person bullying you: Block their phone number, or block them on social media.
- Report it: If the online bullying is happening on social media, you can find out how to report it below.
- There is an NZ law to help: The Harmful Digital Communications Act aims to help people dealing with online bullying, abuse and harassment – we can let you know if you can get help under the Act.
- Get help: Contact Netsafe for help. They can help with any of the above, tell you if there’s anything you can do to stop the abuse and let you know how to stay safe.
HOW TO REPORT ABUSE ON SOCIAL MEDIA SITES
WHAT TO DO IF A FRIEND IS BEING BULLIED ONLINE
- Offer your support: Remind them that no matter what, they don’t deserve to be treated this way.
- Don’t reply: Tell them not to reply or respond to any messages or make contact with the person bullying them.
- Get them to stay calm: Don’t let your friend react in an aggressive way – it may just make things worse.
- Save evidence: Make sure your friend saves the messages and take screenshots of website and chat abuse. Find out how here.
- Report it: If the online bullying is happening on a social media site, you can report it as abuse.
- Get help: Get your friend to contact Netsafe for help We can tell them if there’s anything else they can do to stop the abuse and stay safe.
If you’re concerned about the immediate safety of your friend, call 111.
ONLINE BULLYING INFORMATION FOR PARENTS
Each case of online bullying is different and each child will respond differently to bullying. There’s no fool-proof way to tell if your child is being bullied online, but if you think they might be try asking them about it in a non-confrontational way.
Tips if your child is being bullied online
- Stay calm: Your child needs to be able to talk to you and know that you’ll be level headed, thoughtful and helpful in your response.
- Evaluate the situation: It’s important to know exactly what’s going on before you can work out what to do next. Is it just a few off hand remarks, or is it something more serious?
- Understand how your child is being affected: Every child is different, and behaviour that deeply affects one child may be water off a duck’s back to another. If your child is upset about a situation, let them know that you understand and it’s OK to be upset.
- Don’t take away the technology: Taking away your child’s laptop or mobile phone can alienate them from their most important support network – their peers.
- Teach your child how to use the features available on most social networking sites: For example, blocking and unfriending people. You can also show them how to update privacy settings on social media.
- Work through a plan together: If you need help about what you can do next read more about how Netsafe can help, or call 0508 NETSAFE.
WHAT IS ONLINE BULLYING?
Online bullying (also known as cyberbullying) uses technology to transfer, send, post, publish or disseminate content with the intention to harm a person or a group. It involves aggressive behaviour that is often repeated over time.
WHAT TO DO IF YOU SEE ONLINE BULLYING
You can report the problem anonymously to the website where it’s taking place, and you can reach out to support the person being targeted. You’ll help that person feel less isolated which can help with the impacts of bullying.
WHO SHOULD I CONTACT FOR HELP?
If you or someone you know needs help, contact Netsafe toll free on 0508 NETSAFE, email [email protected] or contact Netsafe online. Our call centre is open from 8am – 8pm Monday to Friday and 9am – 5am on weekends.
If you’re concerned about the immediate safety of you or someone else, call 111.